Di ko na magets! Pero syempre I know I'm a girl. No doubt! Pero hindi naman ako uber arte! hay nako!
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| kapag naiirita! |
Hindi ako experto sa pag-ibig. Lately ko lang nadiskubre na isa kong babaeng torpe. Lakas pala ng loob huh? Wala! Wala! Siguro kse kapag alam mong totoo na, shet! Basta shet! Yun na yun!
Out of words ang loka! Grrrrr
Ewan ko ba kung baket lagi nalang ako napapagtanungan ng mga bagets sa FB tungkol sa pag-ibig! hahahahaha Ano bang meron saken?
Mukha bakong DJ? Feeling ko minsan shock absorber ako sa dami ng problemang nasasagap ko on a regular basis. Dapat nga yata nag-psychologist nalang ako, baka yumaman pa ko. Anyway, wala din naman akong ibang pinapayo.. most of the time nakikinig lang ako.
Pansin ko, karamihan sa mga babae... hay nako.... me problema sa insecurity nila. They don't feel contented with their relationships 'coz they're always demanding more from their bf. At the first few months, they fall in-love and have fun. Some even sleep with them (after a month) right away and get lots and lots of sex. But after let's say 3-6months, they become demanding. They become overly needy and needs to be constantly re-assured. Me mga patesting-testing pang nalalaman at may pahirit-hirit pa na, "I think you don't really love me!" They start to doubt their bfs and make a big deal out of petty issues. In short, they turn into nagging bitches! O diba nakakainis no? Kung ikaw nga naman ang bf, gusto mo ba ng ganun? Lagi kang dinadramahan ng gf mo? Pathetic!
Hay, it all boils down to insecurity. Kung confident at secure ka sa sarili mo, walang space para sa mga thoughts na nega... You'll just be so busy making your partner happy... making both of you happy and make the love grow and grow. Ganun dapat. A relationship should give you happiness... hindi lang sexually pero much much deeper than that. I know madaming tests na pagdadaanan... pero yun yung mga magpapatibay ng samahan. Totoo yun!
Eto girls ang mga tips ko para senyo. Again, I'm not an expert but this might help so you'd feel less insecure and look less desperate in front of your man.
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| kanya kanyang trip lang yan! |
1. Be Confident- aaminin ko, minsan selosa din ako.. pero sakto lang. Syempre kapag love mo isang tao, imposibleng di ka magselos. Pero dapat nasa lugar. At kung nafifeel mo yun, don't be afraid to tell your man once. Again.. ONCE! Wag paulit-ulit. Nakakaurat yun I'm telling you! Once na nasabi mo na, if he really cares about you, he'll find a way to make you not jealous. Minsan kse baka di lang nila napapansin so dapat, aware sila.. so tell them straight up.Walang drama.. walang paawa effect na laos na sa takilya ok? If he still flirts with other women at alam mo ibang level na... that's your signal! EXIT KA NA! Di mo kelangan ng ganun lalo na kung alam mong faithful ka sa kanya.
2. Huwag magkita araw araw! - Pramis! I swear! I know madami sa inyo ay adik na adik at laging gusto dumikit sa inyong bf... pero wag. Baket? Nakakasakal! Tao din naman sya na may sariling buhay.... give yourselves space.... room to grow! Maganda din yung namimiss nyo ang isa't isa para exciting! hahahha
3. Get a LIFE! - Pursue your dreams and support him in his as well. You should also do other things aside from thinking of him. Get a hobby, go out with friends. Explore! Have fun! A relationship should free you and never chain you in one place or with one person. Magpakabusy ka sa ibang bagay na worthwhile.. in short, develop yourself. Kapag nakita ng bf mo na happy ka sa ginagawa mo, he'll be more supportive of you not to mention, maiiwasan mo din magdemand ng time nya.
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| my student Melody drew this for me |
5. Know your role - Ano nga ba ang role naten? Lalo na tayong mga girls... alam natin dapat ang ating roles bilang babae. We should know how to serve our man... and let them be men! Ganun ang magandang partnership... dapat suportahan! Let them lead.. kaya nila yan! Make them feel good about themselves. We should also learn on how to handle them para syempre they will respect us as women. Never ever make them feel inferior (nobody wants that). Stop nagging and try to be more sensitive with his feelings. Wag silang i-overpower... respect his pride. We should know our place in the animal kingdom. If you want to make your point.. do it in a loving way.
6. Feed your mind- magbasa-basa din kyo... wag maging bobo ok? Be informed, manindigan. Una, panget sa babae ang bobo. Maganda ka nga..sexy and all.. sunod ka nga sa uso. Me i-pad ka nga... wala namang laman utak mo? Ay kaderder! Ano naman ang pag-uusapan ninyo kung wala kang alam? Aside from sexual intercourse, there is this thing called mental intercouse. Most of the time, you'll be verbally interacting with your mate so it pays to feed your coconut. Physical beauty fades in time....
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| e kung ganyan ka talaga! Be yourself! |
7. Be yourself - I-appreciate mo kung ano ang meron ka. Be contented with what you got. Wag mong hanapin yung mga bagay na wala syo. Kung natural kang morena, then love it! Kung mala ita ang iyong buhok... so what? ikaw yan e! kahit paulit-ulit mo pang iparebond yan... hay! ambot! Isa pa, wag maging mapang-panggap... baket? Halata e! Pramis! Hindi kse natural! At hindi bagay... for the simple reason na hindi yan ikaw. Kaya nga dba sbi ko, dapat idevelop ang sarili. Wag gaya-gaya!
8. Be honest - Sus! very basic sa GMRC pero madami parin ang sumesemplang dito! Be honest at least to yourself. Lalabas at lalabas din yan sa huli. Syempre there should be honesty in a relationship. Kapag naglie ka sa partner mo, ang hirap na ire-build ang trust. Trust is something very very important in a relationship. If you trust eachother, there will be no room for jealousy. I say you should both build trust on the 1st few months. Make him feel secure and loved. Do not resent him or make him feel "not enough." Kung love mo sya, iparamdam mo na syang sya talaga!
9. About Sex- I strongly advice na wag muna makipag intercourse agad agad. Pigilan mo! Itali mo sarili mo! Remember, it is a sacred act. Love is sacred. Do it at the proper time. Ideally when you get married. Kapag hindi mo na talaga mapigilan, well, bahala ka na sa buhay mo! hahaha Joke! Do it with only your partner.. wag maging pok pok. bad yun! Wag kung kani-kanino. Respect yourself girl! Your body is not a toy! Respect your partner as well. It's not all about the sex, though isang part yun... connection yun e (not just physically but in a much deeper sense). Basta laging tandaan. Be Responsible and make it very very romantic...hindi lang puro you know! Korny kaya nun! hahahahhaha
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| bye bye make-up |
10. Be Simple - Dati, hindi ako makalabas ng bahay ng walang make-up. Feeling ko noon, I have to put color on my face to look pretty until narealize ko na beauty radiates from within. Ngayon, kahit wala akong make-up, I feel much more pretty sa totoo lang. It is how you feel from the inside. Walang effort. Kung ano man ako, tanggap ko at mahal na mahal ko ang buong pagkatao ko. If you practice this, your partner will definitely feel it and will be happy of course. Do it for yourself girl! Alamin mo yung mga bagay na essential. It pays to have a good attitude and mindset. You'll earn not only your partner's respect but others as well.
most important of all ... LOVE yourself. LOVE the REAL YOU and all else will follow. Fill yourself with love... and when you are overflowing with it... natural nalang ang lahat. You'll have more than enough love to share. Respect yourself girl! Kapag pinakita mo sa bf mo na karespe-respeto ka, mas gagalangin ka nya believe me. You must know what you want but be sure to respect him as well. If you love him, you will respect him... automatic na yun. Why would you hurt the one you love dba?
Mga reyna tayo remember! We should be treated like queens! Pero syempre we have to show them na queenly nga tyo! Regal! Sophisticated, hindi cheap! Hindi mga desperada! Hindi basta basta. Lady like! Poised parin. Educated, fun to be with. Make them proud na tyo ang girl nila! We're more than just trophies! Gets?
